Thoughts from Barbara

Lately the issue of shame seems to come up everywhere I look.   Though my personal shame has been mostly about my body and my desires, I hear about shame in so many ways.  Shame about a familial genetic disorder, shame about past behavior, shame about fantasies and even dreams. A key component to keeping shame in place.....keep the issue a secret. Think for a minute about the word shame, and the ideas or memories that come to mind for you.  Notice what you feel in your body as you allow yourself to focus on that idea or situation. If it has been a while since you spoke aloud to anyone about it, you may feel discomfort in your gut, or heaviness in your heart, or the beginnings of a tension headache.  Shame limits our lives, our wellbeing, and our personal power when we begin to believe that who we BE is...
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Shame on you!  *a phrase scolding someone for being naughty Is that something you remember hearing from your childhood?  I certainly do.  Sometimes is was for something I did that seemed serious, but often it was a phrase that was meant to make me feel bad about some minor infraction, or a youthful exuberance gone bad.   If the phrase went in and didn't stick, not such a big deal.  But unfortunately, sometimes those experiences of being shamed take hold and a deep sense of unworthiness begins to live in our bodies and spirit.... and then shame begins to build. shame(sh m) n. 1. a. A painful emotion caused by a strong sense of guilt, embarrassment, unworthiness, or disgrace Shame can hold us back in so many, many ways. In our bodies, our lives, our work, our relationships. Hiding. Avoiding. Covering up. Playing small. Luckily, many people are beginning to talk...
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